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Have you ever found yourself replaying something in your head long after it’s over, like the plans that got canceled on you at the last minute or the goal you never followed through on, or the text that rattled you for days?

You replay it again and again, even though nothing about the replay can change what happened. And somewhere in there, a familiar thought shows up: “It shouldn’t be this way.”

All that replaying takes a lot of energy, and it’s the same energy you need for moving forward.

Accepting reality means letting what’s true be true, so you can decide what to do next. You don’t have to like it, feel grateful for it, or pretend it’s fine. You can still want things to be different and work toward that. Acceptance simply gives you an honest starting point, and that starting point is what helps you make the change you want.

If you want to set down the replay and get some of your energy back, consider these practices:

Notice it. Replaying is one of the most common forms of resistance, and resistance can be sneaky. Watch for the clues: “should” statements, tight shoulders, or avoiding anything connected to what happened. You can’t change what you don’t see.

Name it. Say to yourself, “This is resistance,” or name the feeling underneath, like frustration or disappointment. Research shows that putting feelings into words can calm the brain’s alarm response, which can help take the edge off.

Sort it. Ask yourself what part of this is yours to influence and what part isn’t. Put your energy toward the first, and give yourself permission to loosen your grip on the second.

Take one small step. Choose one small action toward the change you want. Moving forward, even a little, can make it easier to let go.

Resisting less is a practice. You’ll catch yourself hitting replay more times than you can count, and that’s understandable. Each time you notice it, you have a chance to take some of your energy back and put it toward what matters to you.

In this week’s episode, I share where this idea came from, what research says about why pushing thoughts away tends to backfire, and how accepting reality helps you plan and take action.

Check out Episode #339 of the Positively Living® Podcast:

>> Listen to the podcast here​

>> Read the blog post here​

What change do you want to create in your life? Hit reply and let me know.

Wishing you a little more ease with whatever is in front of you this week.

💜

Lisa

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